We learn in life that not everything about us should be laid out in the open, even to our significant other.
“Even though you’re part of a twosome, your relationship will thrive if you maintain a private side,” says Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD, coauthor of The Introvert and Extrovert in Love. “Plus, some things might hurt your partner, so keeping them quiet prevents needless stress on your bond.”
While honesty may be the foundation of every relationship, there are some unnecessary information that shouldn’t be brought up in the first place for the sake of peace.
Here are the top secrets you need to at least keep to yourself when you’re in a relationship:
This works vice versa. We feel our blood boil when our partner brings up the guy or girl who keeps checking them out at work. So how would you feel if the roles were reversed? It may boost your confidence that someone still has the guts to give you some serious side eye despite exclusively dating, but this doesn’t give you any bragging rights. Just soak the attention in and try not to get it into your head or out of your mouth.
Old Flames and Hookups
There’s a reason he doesn’t bring his exes up too. He just wants to prevent constant prodding on the total number of girls he’s rolled in the sack with. Imagine how awkward it would be if he asked you the same thing. Be honest with each other before doing the deed, though, especially when it comes to your sexual health.
His Taste When It Comes to Gifts
Majority of men don’t go all out. Most of the time, they’re scratching their heads wondering what gift to get you on the next big holiday. The day finally rolls in, you find yourself staring at an oversize sweater instead of going on and on telling your man how much he gave the worst gift in the world. (Hey, men have feelings too.) Try hinting on what you’d like next time.
Your Sentiments on His Family
His mom could be a horrible excuse of a mother, but please don’t put down any members of his family because as far as he knows, they’d been with him way before you did. In case any of his family hurts you first, sit down and talk about it. Try not to encourage him into choosing between you or his family, but be honest about your feelings without hurting his.
Chances are, your partner will never understand the feeling of nirvana you get when you’re on a shopping spree. Women often make the mistake of naming the price tag of a complimented dress. Try dropping subtle hints without getting into an argument.